Meet My Friend, Procrastination

Allow me to introduce you to my friend PROCRASTINATION…

Procrastination wasn’t always my friend.  Although we go way back…like waaayyy back.  I think the first time I pulled an “all-nighter” to write a paper, from start to finish, that was due the next day, was probably University.  But I can recall many, many nights in high school when I stayed up at least HALF the night doing the same thing. 

I used to tell myself that I do my best writing under the pressure of a looming deadline.  That’s when the inspiration to write would show up.  I’ve always admired people like my daughter who almost always makes it a point to get her assignments completed (AND HANDED IN!), several days before the due date. 

As an adult, I’ve procrastinated over lots of things completely unrelated to writing.  Anytime there’s a deadline, I seem to prefer waiting until it’s right on top of me (or already passed on some occasions) to complete the task.  I’ve told myself that I’m spatially challenged in that I always grossly underestimate how much time I need to do things.    

Over the years, I’ve come a long way at improving this little quirk (as I prefer to call it) – in fact, I think I’ve come to a place where I can call PROCRASTINATION my friend.  Don’t get me wrong – we’re not BEST friends – she’s not someone I want to spend a lot of time with.  But as I’ve gotten to know her better over the years, I’ve come to accept her and I recently decided that if I just give her a little attention from time to time, we get along quite well.

What does our friendship look like?

Well, she calls me on a fairly regular basis, wanting to hang out, but I’ve actually been spending less and less time with her these days.  I’ve set my sights on some big goals for my business and my personal life, and frankly she’s just not on board, so I’ve had to limit our time together.  

In fact, PROCRASTINATION has been coming around most often lately with another friend, FEAR.  Neither one of them is a fan of me taking action towards accomplishing these goals, so I just can’t afford to spend much time with them.  Every now and again, I let them visit and we reminisce about the old days when we used to hang out together a lot – in the days before I realized I could set big goals and achieve them, but only if I take action every single day in that direction.  

And like any old friend that you’ve grown apart from because you have different priorities, once the reminiscing is done, you run out of things to talk about. 

So you say “I’ve gotta run, but it was great seeing you again!” 

And you really do mean it…because there’s nothing like spending time with someone who used to be a significant part of your life and who you have nothing in common with anymore to show you how much you’ve grown and to encourage you to keep focusing on those big goals, because you see just how far you’ve come towards making them happen…xo

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