To All Women on Mother's Day...You're the Heart of the Family. And You're Flatlining.

We’re supposed to celebrate mothers today.
But let’s be honest—what are we really celebrating?

Women who are burnt out, stretched thin, and silently screaming into their pillows at night?
Women who don’t even remember who they were before everyone needed something from them?
Women who can’t sit still without guilt, rest without justification, or say no without shame?

You want to know the truth?

Motherhood has become the most socially acceptable form of self-abandonment.

And we’re clapping for it.
We hand you a card once a year and say, “You’re amazing.”
Translation: Thanks for destroying yourself so no one else has to be uncomfortable.

We glorify the mother who never stops giving.
Who "does it all."
Who sacrifices her body, her sanity, her dreams.
And then we act surprised when she’s full of rage.
When she’s bitter.
When she fantasizes about disappearing.

You’re not crazy.
You’re just starving.
Starving for space. For silence. For sovereignty.

And here’s the thing no one will say out loud:
It’s not your kids. It’s not your partner. It’s you.

You’re the one keeping yourself last on your list.
You’re the one who decided your needs were optional.
You’re the one who keeps showing up to a job with no days off, no benefits, and no boundaries.

You think it’s love.
It’s not.
It’s conditioning.
It’s patriarchy in a pretty apron.

And let’s be real—what kind of legacy are you leaving if your children grow up thinking motherhood means misery?

So no, I’m not here to wish you a Happy Mother’s Day.
I’m here to tell you to start mothering yourself like your damn life depends on it.

Because it does.

Burn the martyr role to the ground.
Stop looking to your family to give you what only you can give yourself:
Permission. Prioritization. Peace.

Be the kind of mother to yourself that you wish you had.
Soft. Fierce. Boundaried. Whole.

And don’t wait for Mother’s Day to claim your worth.

Start today.
Then do it again tomorrow.
And the next day.
Until treating yourself with reverence is just how it is.

No more crumbs.
No more “someday.”
No more watching yourself disappear in the name of duty.

You want to raise emotionally healthy kids?
Be a woman who doesn’t self-destruct in front of them.

And if you’re not a mother in the conventional sense—don’t for a second think this doesn’t apply to you.

Because if you are a woman who shows up for others, who holds the emotional weight in your workplace, your family, your friendships—you’re mothering in the most profound sense of the word.

And other women are watching you. Little girls are watching you.

You are part of the legacy that teaches all of us what it means to be a woman in the world.

What's the legacy you want to leave...?

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